Friday, April 23, 2010

BB guns

I made a deal with myself today to let my brain take a break and to be guided instead by my inner knowing, even if I ended up at the pizza parlor when I was trying to get to the dentist's office.   This experiment was to help me get back in touch with my writing voice, after several weeks away.  And it would normally be quite safe and simple, since my usual day only takes me around and around my living room, and once to the mailbox.

But today I got a call from my son's school saying that my son had been shot with a BB gun.  Two weeks ago, on a school trip.  A child has apparently been bringing this gun to school and shooting kids in parks etc., but they only found out today when the gun was seen inside the school.

So I ask my child why he never told me, and he says, predictably, that he was threatened that he'd be shot again if he told.  "That would be four times, Mom.  And it hurt."  Four times?  It turns out three separate children shot him with the same gun in the same incident.  They shot, it seems, "a lot of kids."  None of whom told.

My inner knowing doesn't know what to do with this.  Nor does my brain.  How can it be that my son doesn't assume I can protect him?  And what if he is right?


gigihawaii said...

I read this post earlier, but was too shocked to comment. Now, I still find it disturbing.

I wonder if it is a male thing not to report something like this to a parent or other adult. Would a girl do the same? Would I? Does it depend on ones age?

I don't know.

reiko rizzuto said...

I don't know the answer to that. I'm still mulling it over. I am going to write more when I get my head around it. But I can tell you I was shocked to find out there were actually five children who used the gun, and two of them were girls.

gigihawaii said...

Kids see so much violence on TV these days -- even in cartoons! -- that they have become desensitized to it.

But what about pain? Why is there no sympathy for the victim?

septembermom said...

My son has told me about "incidents" on the bus that upset me. At the end of the school year, he told me about a boy who kept poking children with pencils over and over again. None of the kids apparently complained. I get nervous to think that good kids think that they have to put up with assaults of varying degrees from bullies. I wonder about how children and many parents just let things go and assume that bullying behavior is something you just have to deal with.

Beth Kephart said...

you know where my heart lies.....